Today is National stop bullying day. One of my kids books is on bullying, it says bullying is part of life but not one anybody enjoys. I tend to agree. I do not see bullying stopping, I hope the abusive forms end and I hope we can work towards a day when it is gone altogether, but we’ll see.
How do I make a difference? Stop abusing myself is a great start. While I was bullied a lot in school by other kids, that was not as bad as the bullying I gave to myself.
There is a true saying I tell many clients. “If someone you know spoke to you in the way you speak to yourself, would you spend more time with them?” No is often the answer.
Be kinder to yourself than you think you need to be and see what happens. So many people are filled with anger, rage, self hate, self doubt and when they find someone to unload it on, they do, and we often call that bullying.
Okay I am nice to myself, but my life still sucks! Keep being nice to yourself, Rome was not build in a day. It can take some time to change your overall mental state, to one that normally likes yourself.
I think there are always going to be sometimes when we have destructive self talk, or at least that is my experience. Overtime you get less negative self-talk, and more positive or neutral self-talk and that’s a better place to live from.
From that place we can now go out into our world and be an example for others who are struggling. Lets face it bullying is a form of violence, from mild school yard teasing to full out wars on other countries. When more of us are living in a peaceful mindset, then violence is more difficult to happen and things become better.
There are many hundreds of ways to lessen bullying and this is only one. Find one that works for you and start by stopping bullying to yourself.
Be Well,
Ward Willison
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