• Lessons from the wises

    I have a couple of book reviews from one author.

    30 Lessons for Living by Karl Pillemer

    Worth a read: the short notes are he interviewed 1000 seniors and asked them some questions and this is some of what they had to say.

    Relationships: Marry someone a lot like you. Friendship is as important as romantic love. Don’t keep score in a relationship. Talk to each other. Don’t just commit to your partner – commit to the marriage itself.

    Careers: Choose a career for the intrinsic rewards, not just the money. Don’t give up on looking for a job that makes you happy. Make the most of a bad job. Emotional intelligence trumps every other kind. Everyone needs autonomy.

    Parenting: It’s all about time. Spend more with them. It’s normal to have favorites, but never show it. Don’t hit your kids. Avoid a rift at all costs. Take a lifelong view of relationships with children.

    Aging: Being old is much better than you think. Act now like you will need your body for a hundred years. Don’t worry about dying-the experts don’t. Stay connected. Plan ahead about where you will live.

    Living without regrets: Time is of the essence. Happiness is a choice, not a condition. Time spent worrying is time wasted. Think small, enjoy simple daily pleasures. Have faith, how and what you worship is up to you.

    He wrote another book called: “30 Lessons for Loving” and it is so good, I bought a copy to give to my daughter one day.

    There are so many good points in this book it’s just easier if you go buy it. It’s great if a person is looking for a partner, has a partner or is thinking of leaving their partner. It has fantastic points on how to choose a partner, keep them, be kept by them, raise kids….

    I have read my share of relationship books but I so far have only bought and kept “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”, “Mars and Venus in the bedroom”, “Hold me tight”, “Are you the one for me” and this book. I may have a few others on the shelf but if you read that list you’ll be on your way to a happy relationship.

    One of my teachers had a talk with me once. I told him I had no intention of getting married. I thought after seeing my parents divorce it would be a lot easier to stay single. He explained to me that is a okay choice but my life will never evolve. I will never have to grow and adapt and become more. I will never know the height of pleasures and certainly some deeper moments of concern. It will be like living with 8 colors to paint with, while more challenging is being married and more challenging is having children. But, it will be like painting with a million colors.

    I had a few relationship failures. When I fail I go to the bookstore and get six books on the subject read them and see how it goes. I am sure glad I did.

    Be Well,
    Ward Willison
    allbodycare.com
    Acupuncture & Other Natural Therapies

     

  • 45 life lessons worth learning

    There are some real sit down and think about it lines in here. One of the many things my job has taught me is; some days suck. For some of those days this list can help.

    Written By Regina Brett.(editing by Ward)

    1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
    2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
    3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone…
    4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
    5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
    6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
    7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
    8. It’s OK to get angry just get over it and don’t hurt anyone, including you.
    9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
    10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
    11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
    12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
    13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
    14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
    15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; you have a front row seat.
    16. Take a deep breath as fear is excitement without the breath.
    17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
    18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
    19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
    20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
    21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
    22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
    23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
    24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
    25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
    26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words “In five years, will this matter?”
    27. Always choose life.
    28. Forgive everyone for everything.
    29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
    30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
    31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
    32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
    33. Believe in miracles.
    34. You are loved, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
    35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
    36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
    37. Your children get only one childhood.
    38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
    39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
    40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
    41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
    42. The best is yet to come.
    43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
    44. Yield.
    45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

    Have a good think,
    Be Well,
    Ward Willison
    allbodycare.com
    Acupuncture & Other Natural Therapies

  • You are not what you eat!

    You are not what you eat   By Van Clayton Powel

    Overall – A basic book on how to eat. I have been beating this drum forever. If your digestion, bowels or energy is not what you want this may be a good book to start with. Available at your local library or bookstore.

    Main message of the book –
    – No fluids 30 min before a meal. ½ cup of water with a meal. No fluids for 1 hour after a meal. All fluids room temp.
    – chew each bite 30 times.
    – eat a meal and wait at least 2-3 hours before eating anything else. Ie. No grazing.
    – When you eat don’t watch TV, read, argue, run around. Just sit down and visit.
    – do not exercise 1-2 hours after a meal.
    – eat breakfast every day of your life. Do not eat after 7pm.
    – have at least one bowel movement a day. If you don’t get help so you do.

    Cool quotes:
    “in the 1950’s the average American homemaker spent 2.5 hours shopping for and preparing dinner. By 1996 this had decreased to 15 minutes.”

    “By the year 2000 Americans were eating 80% of their restaurant meals in fast food outlets. The average amount of time they spent there? 11 minutes.” (that’s bad)

    “Of a group of 32 men who were forced to do hard labour in one German concentration camp during WW II, only three survived. One of the survivors wrote the three survived by religiously chewing each mouthful of their meager rations 150 times or more.”  (it gets more nutrition out of the food)

    “It’s now possible to detect over 600 chemicals in our bodies that were not present in any human being before the early 1900’s” (that’s bad also)

    If you would like any information on these points, or help in attaining them just give us a call.

    Thank you for reading,
    Be Well,
    Ward Willison