You have not seen your brother for 4 years but it is like you started the argument from the last word that was said, all that time ago.
You are suffering from the LP record syndrome. Do you remember vinyl? They had a continuous groove that just kept going till the record was done. If you lifted the needle of the record player you could just put it down later and start from the exact spot you left off at.
It can be like that with family. You are just picking up from where you left off at.
There is a better way.
We just survived a three week invasion from three groups of relatives. I noticed something with my brother this trip.
I sat back took a breath and decided to have a look at my brother with ‘fresh eyes’ and to my amazement he looked older and made sense when he talked! Where was my little brother who I had to do things for?
It was amazing we talked like adults, we did adult things, we had a great time. Now I have always loved my brother but this trip was different for me.
I encourage you in your interactions with your family and others to make sure you are not just ‘dropping the needle’ on the old record. It will doom you to a unsuccessful encounter with that person.
Take a moment and really look at the person and hear what they are saying today, you might be amazed.
Be Well,
Ward Willison
allbodycare.com
Acupuncture & Other Natural Therapies